I want to share a verse with you found in Proverbs 31.
“She is clothed in strength and dignity, and she can laugh at the days to come.”
The word DIGNITY means “worthy of respect.”
And you are, undoubtedly, worthy of respect from others and yourself. The reason it is so important to respect yourself is simple: you show the world how they are to treat you, based on how you treat yourself. Do you see yourself as someone who deserves love, or do you feel the need to prove that you are worth loving? Are you clothes in strength and dignity? Your answer to this question will be revealed by your behavior and choices.
Example 1: Have you ever noticed that when a woman/man posts an extremely sexual photo of themselves on social media, the comments become very vulgar, demeaning and extremely perverted? This is because in that moment the world was given the green light to speak in that manner about that individual. If you expose your body in a sexual manner you will get sexual responses. But, even if that same man/woman decided to post a nonsexual photo of themselves, they would continue to get the same inappropriate responses because outsiders already know, by his/her nonverbal behavior, that it is an acceptable way to speak to them. They were already given permission.
Do you speak and behave in a way that allows others to know that you are worthy of respect? It’s a simple concept, but extremely life changing. God designed you with such great value and purpose; He created you as a woman/man worthy of respect. We just need to make the decision to walk in this truth and to treat all people with that same respect. This means men speaking of and treating women in a respectable way, as God’s daughters. This means women speaking about other women in ways that are edifying in order to add value to them and never to diminish it.
So do you believe that you are worthy of respect? Are you proving to others what is an acceptable way to treat you, based on the example that you have given them? That is, based on the way you treat yourself?
It all comes down to worth. By God’s definition of love, even though we were so unworthy of the beautiful gift of grace that He has freely given to us, He still sees us as worth it. And guess what! Your worth, your dignity, your value, it is all instilled in you no matter your past, your career, your mistakes, your struggles. It is just a matter of whether or not you CHOOSE to walk in that truth. What we want to accomplish is believing that God has already declared us as valuable, and to then live it out.
Take back your dignity.
I pray that we all renew our minds on how a woman/man that is worthy of respect treats themselves and others, in order to add value back to people, including ourselves. And we can only do this if we understand who we are. We are God’s kids and we are free to walk in dignity and we are worthy of respect.